Who are we to judge others?

I read the following on the news today, I think our world is so ridiculous and our perception is just so twisted!!!

A few years ago, I still remember people were over reacting and phoning the Boardcasting Review Agency to complain when Joyce Cheng was performing as "Snow White", and all of a sudden, people's view changed 180 degrees??

Not that I have any bias towards Joyce. Personally I admire her discipline and perseverance to loose so much weight in the past few years. I know it's not easy and it takes a lot of effort (at least I can't do it!!) I never feel there was anything wrong with her and her performance. She was just an ordinary girl, brought up in a single mom family, in Vancouver. Nothing wrong, and nothing out of the ordinary (except she has a mom who is a celebrity).

So who are we to judge if she is "成功洗底" or not???? These articles are just twisting our values, who are we to say she was not good enough before, and all of a sudden is good enough now?

These are articles on the news, and it totally shows how shallow the writers are. It shows how they use their pens to blow up and emotionalize simple things in people lives.

If this is all our next generation's gonna read and learn, what would our future be like? Shallow and judgmental??? OMG!!!!!!!!!!!

If I can voice out my two cents, all I want to say is, people, just be yourself and live your dreams. We are not worthy only when people say we are, we are worthy because we were created by the almighty God and bought by a high price on the cross.

堅強面對喪母痛贏民心 欣宜獲網友力撐入樂壇
欣宜月內痛失母親及外婆兩位至親，她昨日在記者會上談及肥姐時一度泣不成聲，場面令人心酸。不過，年紀輕輕的欣宜繼承了母親的堅強性格，矢言會爭氣，努力學做一個有承擔的女人。

網民大表同情
對於欣宜的堅強表現，不少網友在討論區表示同情之餘，更非常支持她加入樂壇，稱讚她的歌藝比很多樂壇新人更佳，支持欣宜繼承肥姐的遺願，成為出色藝人。由此可見，欣宜的孝義表現已為她成功洗底，爭回大眾的愛戴。

除了天真和傻之外，還有對錯﹗

蔡子強~中文大學政治與行政學系高級導師

(明報) 02月 15日 星期五 05:05AM

【明報專訊】香港最值得一提的spin doctor，當然不是劉細良，又或者何安達，而是英皇娛樂王牌經理人──Mani霍汶希。

朋友劉細良在未加入政府之前，曾經與筆者在《明報》一起撰寫這個專欄，其中一篇令我印象最深刻的，就是談到：在香港，spin的文化，最成行成市的，並不是本地政壇，反而是娛樂圈；最值得參考的spin doctor心得，不是什麼心戰室實錄，而是英皇娛樂王牌經理人Mani霍汶希的手記。

「每天具體執行spin功能的人士，最專業的是一幫娛星經理人，當藝人醉酒打人或被狗仔隊伏擊，甚或拍得與北方佳麗上房過夜照片時，他們便要與『乜周物周』的娛樂總編『拆』，提出交換條件，希望影響編輯手下留情，平時飲茶灌水免費晚餐演唱會『飛』少不了，所以大家周不時見到一些明星無端端上封面，而且係正面報道，就知道是幕後spin doctor發功了。」

我想兩年多之後的今天，如果細良有機會再重寫同一篇文時，他一定會加上這個新的素材──周一阿嬌的記者會。

機關算盡的發言和記者會

短短分半鐘的記者會，140多字，機關算盡的發言，滴水不進，我敢打賭，當中一定有很多公關和法律顧問的意見。

不是嗎﹖事件的對錯，以「我承認以前係好天真同好傻，但係現在己經長大了」短短兩句說話，輕描淡寫的帶過，相片的真偽，完全不再提及，要迴避的，當然是其公司英皇集團當初「移花接木」的指控，及可能的法律責任，而「天真」和「傻」兩個形容詞，更與Twins 一貫苦心經營純情、可愛形象，配合得天衣無縫。

霍汶希更聲明，英皇所有藝人將永遠就事件封口，不會再評論事件，美其名為免事件擴大，令藝人受到傷害；而阿嬌的發言不長於分半鐘，不設記者發問，這都可確保新聞報道時，可以讓「官方」苦心設定的版本，原原本本出街，避免讓傳媒斷章取義。

阿嬌發言前，歌迷送上一個寫上：「一定繼續撐孖女，We Support Twins Forever」的蛋糕；發言時，又有秩序地排在後方高舉「一定永遠支持Twins」的燈牌；發言後，又大叫「支持你」、「支持你」……的口號。這簡直是一個經過精心策劃的電視畫面。有報章暗示，歌迷由公司一手包辦。

Timing也是一絕，記者會的明日，剛巧就是老闆新股上市的日子，恰好趕得及「拆彈」。
對錯、教訓，都被spin一一掩蓋。

但問題正正是，愈把問題這樣輕描淡寫的帶過，就愈把對錯、責任、教訓等重要問題，一一掩蓋，令社會把學費白交了。

我並不是一個性觀念保守的人，兩個人，關了門，如何男歡女愛，本來不需要旁人指手劃腳。但問題是，今次牽涉的都是公眾人物，是被公司、傳媒、電台（包括港台），甚至政府部門，力捧的年輕人偶像，對後生仔有重大的示範作用。當這些藝人義不容辭的走去當什麼「滅罪、禁毒、太陽計劃……之星」時，在讓自己增添人氣，接受群眾和鎂光燈簇擁之外，他們有否想過自己一言一行的社會責任呢﹖如果阿嬌只是一個寂寂無聞的尋常普通人，不是公眾人物，我們就有更多的理由，對她更加包容。

又或者，如果她是未夠18歲的「後生女」，我們也有更多的理由，對她更加寬容；但一個成年人，一個27歲的成年人，就不能單單以一句「天真和傻」，來迴避對錯，迴避責任。

我想大家的要求十分簡單，闖禍不是世界末日，沒有人要求從此要讓你永不翻身，但最起碼，不能文過飾非，對錯、責任、教訓等問題，要有一個交代。
事件中，有什麼對錯﹖

上月27日，即事件爆發的首天，英皇集團曾公開聲稱相片是遭「移花接木」，並就事件報警，究竟當中是否有人「報假案」、誤導警方、誤導公眾﹖

事件中，有什麼公眾意義﹖

在性觀念開放、Snapshot、後生女對自己身體警戒心日減的今天，阿嬌是否應該講清楚事件對自己所造成的切膚之痛，以及從中汲取到的教訓﹖

這些都不是純粹供大家茶餘飯後「八卦」，而是關乎到下一代成長的重大話題，但是今天在spin的考慮，spin的文化下，都被一一放過。

或許你會指摘我以一個男性霸權的角度來看整件事，那麼我介紹大家看看徐詠璇，周三在《信報》其專欄所寫的文章：

「阿嬌以『天真』和『傻』這些純情、可愛的字眼，將事件輕輕帶過。是她真的不覺得拍這些四級照片有何不妥？抑或是她旁邊的人拍拍心口，告訴她一切等閒？……令人失望的，是阿嬌有太多人包庇照顧，令她也繼續沉溺在虛偽、荒淫、跟紅頂白的最劣的娛樂圈染缸裏。這次過了關，厚臉皮，博大家忘記，久而不聞其臭，還贏得個『勇敢』面對人生的稱號。背誦了這一大篇話之後，她可能長大了，只是，不見得變好了。」

在性觀念開放、Snapshot、後生女對自己身體警戒心日減的今天，我想徐詠璇正正道出很多母親心中對女兒的擔憂。

以前娛樂圈提到化妝師，人們只會想起「輝哥」（陳文輝）；今天提起化妝師，大家恐怕想起的，卻是Mani。而比起前者，後者為藝人化的妝，或許更加巧奪天工；化妝前後，更加判若兩人。

一些簡單顯淺的道理

Do you agree on this writer's view?

【明報專訊】如果筆者是錯的，歡迎指正。《郭繾澂》

（1）侵犯別人的私隱，未經當事人同意，是不道德的；
（2）侵犯他人私隱，認為他人私隱不道德，是自己不道德在先；
（3）男歡女愛，只要已屆合法年齡，喜歡怎樣，在沒影響他人之下，是他們的事；
（4）你對偶像的期望，是你個人的事；期望有偏差，也是你個人的事，可以自我調整，與他人無關；
（5）被侵犯私隱的，與公眾利益無關，應是受害者；
（6）受害者，應予以同情，至少不應加倍傷害；
（7）盜取他人私隱，是盜竊行為，不應縱容；
（8）即使在合法途徑之下，取得他人私隱，仍是不道德行為；
（9）如自己不道德地窺探他人私隱，沒權批評他人私底下不道德；
（10）誰都有權使用拍攝工具拍下個人私隱；
（11）不小心泄露個人私隱，只算不小心、不智，不等同發布罪；
（12）以非法手段竊取他人私隱並廣泛發布，屬刑事罪行；
（13）在你情我願之下，私人拍攝親熱照片，非刑事罪，也不算不道德；
（14）女性有權拒絕拍攝任何危害她本人聲譽的照片；
（15）女性拒絕拍攝上述照片是恰當的自保行為；
（16）萬一在兩情相悅之下拍了同類照片，如只認為作私下觀賞，沒有發布的企圖，也沒有違反道德操守；
（17）私下拍攝親熱照不應與盜取他人親熱照公開發布相提並論，不等於不拍親熱照就不會被公開的歪理可以合理化；
（18）選擇性執法只是不公平，不等於非法行為就是合法。

Right or Wrong????

Media and people are crazy...they call this action of Gillian "courage"?????

She sounded so "easy" and didn't take her act seriously..."tin jaan and shor"?????????? So that's called apology ga la??? OMG!!!

Comparing to Edison's video...people say he is "coward" and "weak"...but at least he looks a lot more serious and stressed...

I don't understand why people all support the girls and is attacking Edison...not that I like him nor I think what he did was right...and frankly I've seen some of those pics...unless the girls were drugged...otherwise I think they all know what they were doing...just that they never expect it will be publicize...why is the girl "more cham" and the guy "dai say" ne????? Everyone's nude picture got posted...why only the girl is "cham" ne??? What kind of standard is that? A guy being nude is "okay"...and gal being nude is "seed dai"???? They were not forced and raped...don't they all enjoy what they were doing???

All of them did the same level of sin/wrong, and all of the are all very "cham" cuz they don't know what they're doing is right or wrong and they all got nude pics all over the world.

And people online are treating Edison like criminal...actually I agree he is addicted to sex act...but just like any other addiction and he is not the one posting all these pics online...just like Jesus always says...we all did things in the dark that we can't let the world see...lots of secret sins...who are we to judge that Edison is right or wrong...and who are we to say that we "forgive" Gillian???? People on one side enjoy these nude pics at home...watching them...talking about them...and on the other side condemning the photo taker????? What a wicked world??????????!!!!!!!!!

Meaning Within

A song with very deep meaning...what do you think it's talking about?

A church with very different design..what do you think is this church's theology in "worship"?

小蟲與貓の美食日誌

Our new blog for year 2008...to record the yummy meals we have everyday...and to remind us to eat healthier...

http://www.wormymeowyummy.blogspot.com/

非常之堅

http://psalm16.org/

IT蘇菲家姐??

Time flies, 蘇菲家姐 is already 1.5 years old lar, she is a lot bigger now, and can barely fit on top of the printer, but she is still curious like a little kid, esp. towards the computer equipments and cameras!!! Maybe she can have a career in IT one day???

And 蘇菲家姐 also enjoys peeking over 小貓媽Mee's laptop and sitting on top of the printer while 小貓媽Mee works late at night.

But thanks 蘇菲家姐 for keeping 小貓媽Mee company, although sometimes 蘇菲家姐 would doze off while waiting.

Peter仔契爺掛住蘇菲家姐&金鋼細佬

Because 遠在香港的Peter仔契爺 complained to 小蟲爸Bee thru MSN that he 掛住蘇菲家姐 & 金鋼細佬, so we better o拿o拿聲 post come pictures on the blog for him to see 先得!!

"Heheheee...oops...sorry!!"

"More to come soon!!"

By the way, 金鋼細佬 is doing what 蘇菲家姐 likes to do all the time (probably she taught him this), taking over 小貓媽Mee's side of the bed and her pillow too!!

New Noodle Place in Parker Place

The soup base is quite good, but I don't quite like the texture of the noodles. Apparently, this place is opened by a group of Christians!!

They play praise songs as the BGM in the restaurant, interesting! But other than this, what else can Christian entrepreneur do to make a difference?? Mmmm...think think... =)

Hip Baby...Cool Outfit!!!

Featuring Miss Rachel Cheng!!!!

Couple's Small Group Shiatsu Workshop

How come it's Big Tummy Anita serving Carlos???? Shouldn't it be the other way around??? Oh...maybe because Carlos has big tummy too!!!

BettyMaMa, "If you don't behave...I'll twist you neck!!!"...

Alex, "Mmmm...very "lum"...

Sick

3/4 of November has already passed by...and so far I only have 1 post for this month...sigh...

Lots of pics taken...just don't have the energy to upload it...

Everytime I sit in front of the laptop...I saw boxes and boxes of work around me...still needs to be done...

Gum bin yau sum ching write blog ar????

SIGH~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

天空之城???

A shot of Vancouver on the Oak Street Bridge...in an ordinary afternoon...

The power of God's hands...amazing!!!

Feenie's Kitchen Nightmare

Sigh...一聲嘆息...

"Rob Feenie, one of Canada's most celebrated chefs, says he has been forced out of his two Vancouver restaurants, Lumiere and Feenie's."

http://www.canada.com/vancouversun/news/story.html?id=0979b288-ebbf-47c3-be99-8dc80d503e61&k=87394&p=1